Clearly I have opted to write about my life here in a public forum
and since much of my life
revolves around my kids
I have opted to write about them too
I don't use their names
and I try to keep them safe
It is a choice
and I know
for many of us that are moms and blog
a tough one
the first aspect is
are my kids going to be upset?
will they regret being put in public?
I know the answer for B
because recently it came to my attention that he has been giving my blog information
to people
so they can read it.
He likes what I write and he likes especially what I write about him
I know that for me
my emotions flow much easier in my writing than in real life
many of my posts are a tribute to how impressed I am with both children
how special they are to me
and how proud I am of them
But then there is this looming fear
or threat
I've seen it happen
when a Mom blogger gets attacked
but she is not attacked based on her views or opinions
she is attacked because of her views or opinions or behaviors at blogging events
but the angle in which she is attacked
is via her children
how they look
how she's raising them
this, that or the next thing
and while I'd like to say
kids are off limits
they aren't
not when we put them out there
and we've made that choice
Recently a comment I made over at the Liberal Journal
had this sort of response
Aimeepalooza you need to go back to your beer slinging job and taking care of your bouncy kids, maybe have them to choke down some riddlin as opposed to the caffeine.
Clearly, the person making the comment had nothing of value to say
so he tried to go after me based on my seemingly shitty job
and based on my child
I could do two things
I could pretend that because I am "just a server,"
that I have no intelligence and no right to discuss politics
and I could make the choice not to write about my children
Or, I can take the comment as the person has nothing to say
and can only make personal attacks
and write about what I want
I am taking option two
I do have things to contribute politically
and having a child that may or may not have ADHD
is something a lot of parents can relate to
My choice to medicate or not
is my choice
I am currently weighing the pro's and con's
I am certain readers out there have experienced every thought that runs through my mind
and can offer their own experiences to help me
so one reader wants to poke fun?
Baby G is amazing
in mind and spirit
way more amazing than some stupid red neck that cannot think of
a single intelligent thing to say
Baby G started reading simple words at the age of four
read the entire Green Eggs and Ham book to me at the age of five
(he had a little help here and there)
and has impressed the snot out of his kindergarten teacher with his ability to learn
in spite of his energy level
and now as a Mother
I have to investigate with his doctor and teacher
to determine both if he has ADHD
and if medication should be used
am I ashamed?
no way
Does a mean spirited idiot have the power to make me feel ashamed?
no way
my little boy is smart, beautiful, and has an amazing heart
so he bounces
so what?
Anyway, I've rambled a bit
but
I do plan on taking those of you that are reading
through this journey with me
Currently
I went through all the different check lists for ADHD
and so much of what I saw was Baby G to a T
except he seems to not be an outcast
in fact
much the opposite
And now I am left with
do I press the issue?
do I get a diagnosis?
or do I let this go and see what comes of it?
My big fear is that if we do end up doing something
are the meds going to crush his spirit?
because I absolutely adore his spirit
I adore his spark
his love of life
his bouncing
his fight
everything
but
what doing nothing holds him back in the future?
what then?
And for those of you that didn't know about caffeine...
all the drugs used to treat ADHD are stimulants
in regular people taking those drugs creates a high similar to coke (the drug not the drink)
which is why those drugs have to be locked up in school settings
in children with ADHD
it calms them
caffeine is also a stimulant
a more mild one
but it has the same effect in children with ADHD
it calms them
but less than the drugs would
I still don't know for sure that it works on Baby G
Saturday, November 15, 2008
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7 comments:
I think some people are just mean and you are totally right. Who cares?
I love reading what you write, obviously you are intelligent. Someone who resorts to making fun of your job and your child clearly has their own issues to deal with and should be pitied.
Have a nice weekend with your smart, adorable, bouncy child. :)
Taking shots at the kids? So low!
Not cool people!
The whole point of the internet is so that we can exchange ideas freely. That's why totalitarian governments try to control access to it. It's unbelievable someone would try to attack your kids based on what you would write in your blog, and I am sorry you have to deal with that. What job you hold has nothing to do with your intelligence; it's obvious from the moment I stopped on your page that you are a very bright woman. People can be so irritating.
oh, aimee. i love you so much. you, and aaron, and BOTH OF YOUR KIDS are perfect. just absolutely perfect.
if baby g needs meds, he needs meds. i know very awesome people (ME!) who need meds to live normally.
if he doesn't need them, you'll figure it out. you're the best mom i know.
internet is scary, when we chose to write about people in our life, I guess I would prefer anonimity, you nevew know how they will be impacted.
I tell my daughter that sometimes people say mean things because they feel uncomfortable and don't know how to react. It's not an excuse, it's just a reality and thinking about it objectively lets me not feel so hurt, or impacted by their words- but rather sorry for them that they aren't open to learning.
There are times I had wished my folks had medicated me. I was bouncy, I couldn't focus I was so bouncy.
You are an amazing mother Aimster. You'll do what is best, you always do. Fuck anyone who tells you different.
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